So, my parents are divorced, and have been since I was 3,
but it still to this day affects me. I still remember them fighting, and
screaming at each other. Not only did my parents’ divorce, but both my parents
have divorced AGAIN! You could call me an expert. Well, anyway, parents don't
think about how it affects us kids. We are the ones who have to live in the
middle. I know I hate it! So here is a list of all the things divorce causes us
kids to deal with. My parents are divorced. I wouldn't say it ruined my life,
but it surely never helped me sleep at night. The saddest fact about it was
that their divorce took three years to complete. For two fatalistic people,
they sure did plan to die before finishing the paperwork. The lengthy divorce
was more a matter of procrastination than dividing up assets, which may delay
the divorce process in wealthier families. For some kids though, divorce can
destroy them. They will feel unloved by one or both parents and some may even
think it was partly their fault. I was one of the lucky few kids who always
knew my parents loved me, even if their divorce proved to me that love is
painful.
1. Fighting- Parents
still continue to fight even after the divorce. My parents have been divorced
almost 14 years and they still constantly fight and argue about EVERYTHING!!
2. Talking smack
about other parent- I don’t think parents realize how badly this really affects
us. We are the child so we want to love both parents, and listening to your dad
say stuff about your mom or vice versa, it just really sucks.
3. Feeling like you
have to choose – I constantly feel like I have to choose between my mom and my
dad. It’s like if I love or “choose” both the other parent makes me feel
guilty. A child should not have to choose between parents.
4 Missing a parent-
Basically one parent usually has primary custody of the children, and the other
gets “visitation” You want to be able to see both parents equally, but that
never really happens. Or if you do get shared custody and go week to week, then
you miss the parent you don’t see that week.
5. Different
rules to different houses- When you are a kid, it’s really hard to keep track
of which rules apply to which house. Remembering all the different ways your
parents are going to parent you is pretty sucky
6. Selling the
family house-When you buy a house and have kids it's an obligation to keep that
house forever. You should die in that house, or at least in the driveway or
after falling from the roof into the neighbor's yard. Not having a home to
retreat back to whenever things go wrong in life is an unsettling feeling for
me. I like to go with the Metallica attitude of "where I lay my head is
home" to ease my fears. Times are tough so I understand why some parents,
mine included, will sell a house. Understanding why someone does something
still doesn't mean it isn't ruining someone's life. Where am I supposed to keep
the things I no longer want, but am too sentimental to throw in the trash?
7. Having more kids- Children can be incredibly jealous
creatures. That's actually not fair. All people can be incredibly jealous
creatures. Introducing a new child into the picture can create dire
consequences. I'm no expert when it comes to being a parent. I have had every
virtual pet I have ever owned die on me. For further information on how having
more kids can ruin your kid's life, please see the first Rugrats movie. Those
kids almost get eaten by wolves because the parents decided to have another
kid.
8.Behaving childish-I have often wondered at what age or
life event most or all of a person's childish behavior should be placed behind
them. I still have no answer. The only reasonable moment I can think of is when
you become a parent. After you are a mother or father it's time to accept
responsibility for your mistakes more than ever before. Behaving like a child
sets a bad example for your kids and it will create a cycle of idiots in your
bloodline. There are enough of those already.
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